One of the best processes I teach for creating and manifesting what you want in your life is to make a list of all the positive aspects and attributes that you want in that new relationship, job, etc. When your write your desires down you powerfully anchor the new energies into this moment in time and then every day you read the list; re-anchoring those vibrations into your energy field continually amping up your vibrational attraction to what you are desiring.
But what do you do if you are in a relationship or job that is not working and leaving that experience is not really something that can be done right now? If you are constantly focusing on all the things you don’t like about that relationship or job then you are only going to get more of the same.
If energy goes where your attention flows and all of a sudden you get fired or the relationship ends all of that unwanted “stuff” is still in your energy field and you can easily take that with you to the next experience perpetuating a new experience of exactly the same thing that you didn’t want. This is the stuff that unwanted patterns are created from.
It’s much easier to think and dream of all the things you want when you are in a place of creating something new. If what you are experiencing on a daily basis is the job you hate, the relationship that is not working, or not having enough money to pay your bills; it is much harder to get to those positive feelings and holding the vision of something better.
Bottom line: You can feel really, really stuck and moving to the next level is not easy.
Every moment is created by the previous moment and what you are feeling. If you are feeling anger, resentment, lack then the next moment won’t be any different, which means neither will the next day, the next week, the next month or even the next year.
So how do you shift up in your vibration to begin to create something different and better when you are really stuck in a place that continually gives you more of what you don’t want?
You must STOP. Get off that wheel of going over and over all the things that you don’t want or like.
Make Peace with where you are at first so that you can move to something better!
Abraham (Esther Hicks) calls this the “Book of Positive Aspects” process.
“ The simple effort of looking for positive aspects will set a new vibrational tone that will begin the immediate attraction of thoughts, people, circumstances, and things that are pleasing to you. “ Abraham
Make a list of all the positive things about the current experience that you want shift. What can you sincerely be appreciative about? This may take some digging but they are there.
Do you like some of the people you work with?
Maybe you met someone who is now a good friend.
Perhaps the hours or the commute are great.
Are you more clear with what you really want now in relationships?
What lessons have you learned? Or what past trauma have you been able to heal? (Every experience we have will “serve” us in some way.)
Here are a few examples from my own life.
Just after my former marriage ended I was in almost complete financial ruin and I had to relinquish all my credit cards and was living well below what I was used to. The beautiful lesson in that was I saw how much “stuff” I could easily live without and how freeing it was to pay in cash and be “debt free”. As I focused on this the money started to quickly flow in.
A few years back I was working at job and I was really struggling with being there. I really wanted to quit but since I was still building my coaching practice up I couldn’t afford to do that yet. I soon saw that this “hatred” was affecting me in other ways. The only thing I could really focus on was the great hours and my boss who really appreciated me, but that was all it took and things quickly shifted.
A dating relationship (that I thought was going well) ended very suddenly and I was irrationally devastated. As I struggled to heal from a place of love I clearly and instantly realized what kind of relationship I deserved and shouted that out to the Universe. The next week I met my soul mate!
The more you focus on all the positive aspects of the experience you are wanting to change the more that experience will begin to change in positive ways.